Wednesday, 22 March 2017

23 Things in 23 Years

23 things I've learned in 23 years

Tomorrow I'm going to be 23 years old - and that is a fucking scary thought. I dunno about you guys, but when I was a kid, 23 seemed to be such an old, big age. At that age I thought you'd be a proper adult with a house and career. Hell, at age 23 my mother was married. Times have changed, I suppose, and I'm not looking to rush my life. I'm not exactly happy that I still haven't figured out a career, and if I had the option of having my dream house and a kitten with Jack, then I'd take it, but that's hardly on the cards for now. I'm fine with living at home, I'm happy that I can save up for things I want - holidays and tattoos in particular. I do not deem myself an adult at all however - I'm still figuring it out, and I still don't have things like my mental health in order. I also still have my mum make my doctors appointments which probably says a lot, haha.

That said, I've learned a lot in my time, and I'm constantly evolving and changing. Today I thought I'd share 23 things I've learned in my 23 years, and hope that it comes in as handy advice for some of you too.

  1. I'm not defined by my weight.
  2. Or what boy is on my arm.
  3. Everyone is entitled to live their life how they want.
  4. It's OK to need help, and equally OK to admit it.
  5. Why fight for somebody if it's not mutual? All it does is break my heart and ruin my mental health.
  6. It's OK to lean on someone from time to time.
  7. I am different for who I am, how I approach things, and how I treat people - not by what I like or dislike.
  8. Some people were born with unblemished skin and it may feel unnatural. I am one of those people, and tattoos make me more me.
  9. Happiness is a moment. It is not a constant, solid emotion.
  10. We are all flawed by human nature, but our pros outweigh our cons.
  11. I am capable of much more than I give myself credit for.
  12. I do not deserve to know or interact with toxic people, and I am better than that.
  13. Sometimes I can't change things. They are how they are, and that's how it is.
  14. My body is normal, not weird.
  15. Life is about balance [this one is a lesson in progress].
  16. There's more to life than shiny new lipsticks and a social media following, but they are lovely anyway. Just don't get carried away!
  17. My relationship brings me happiness, but it is not the only thing that can make me happy.
  18. Instinct is often right.
  19. It's OK to know I'm in the wrong place and it's OK to not know where I'm going or what I'm doing. I'll work it out when the time is right. [still accepting this one!]
  20. Counsellors are alright.
  21. Compromise sucks, but sometimes it's necessary.
  22. Advice is useful but it's important that I do what's right for me.
  23. Good things happen when I'm not looking.
These are some pretty honest lessons I learned, and none of them were particularly easy to learn, either. I can say with confidence that I find each of these to be true, though! 

Do you agree with any of these? What important lessons have you learned in your lifetime?


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