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5 Ways To Be Happy

Saturday, 23 July 2016
lifestyle, choose happiness, improving happiness, self-care, how to look after you, how to be happy

I'm not gonna lie, this is sort of a click-baity title I suppose, cos it's not like happiness just comes overnight and it can't be solved in a five-step plan. Being happy is something we all want, but isn't necessarily something we all get and I think it takes work to experience lasting happiness. I thought I'd share some of the ways I've learned to become happier with myself and my life in the last few years. 

1. LISTEN TO YOURSELF

Even if you think you don't, you usually know what is right for you. Sometimes a choice you have to make isn't apparent, but usually clarity will come and you'll realise that you kinda had a niggling feeling all along that things would turn out this way. I feel this way about leaving my first job, the one I had since I left college. Sainsbury's weren't very good to me, as most big companies aren't in general, and I fussed and fumbled for ages, making excuses as to why I didn't have a new job. Eventually, when I got a new job, I realised that I really did need to get away and start afresh somewhere new - I think I just didn't want to admit it as then I'd have to deal with the hassle of finding a new job! (UGH, anxiety).

2. APPRECIATE THE LITTLE THINGS

So your brother posted multiple times on Facebook to advertise the post you wrote on his watch company. That shit is cool, man. I might not go about like OMFG I'M SO EXCITED THANK YOU SO MUCH cos I'm a lot more chill than that where lipstick isn't concerned, but it's cool. It's cool to get a little shout out. It's cool when someone makes you a cup of tea. I still get really happy when Jack makes me tea in the morning and I don't even have to ask. 

3. SHED YOURSELF OF UNECESSARY DRAMA AND/OR TOXICITY

I admit I spent my teens seeking out the worst in people, looking for drama and gossip, for crappy people that would let me drink my troubles away, but there gets to a point in life where you can't hack it anymore cos you realise you don't need this shit, it's only perpetuating a self-destructive mindset. Or you realise that you can do better, that this isn't what you really want after all. None of these things ever really occurred to me before I was 21 - and even then, it was about six months after that that I got some sense -, so prior to this I spent my time chasing horrible people, wrapped up in ugly episodes. The sooner you realise you are better than it, that you're worth more, the sooner the weight on your shoulders will start to lighten.

4. DON'T REGRET THINGS

A vague one, I know, and hardly the easiest of feats to accomplish, but instead of wishing that you could have changed that, instead of wishing about the things you should have said, remember that you don't have a magic time machine, and you don't control history. You're stuck with the decisions you've made - you've made your bed, now lie in it, as they say. Harsh, but true. You'll drive yourself insane going over all the things you wish you could change, what you should have said and done. I find that caring about these things only leads me to stress and make myself miserable when I can't even do anything to change the fact... So what good is it doing me? 

5. REMOVE YOURSELF FROM TECHNOLOGY SOMETIMES

I'll be the first to admit that I'm one of those annoying people that, unless I'm with Jack, I'll check my phone as soon as I wake up in the morning. Facebook, Gmail, Hotmail, Twitter and Instagram - and sometimes even the Cocktail Cosmetics Jeffree Star page (obsessed doesn't quite cut it, I know), and in my free time I spend most of my morning and day in front of the camera or the laptop screen, editing, blogging, tweaking, writing, scheduling, and my evenings in front of Netflix. All in all, I spend my day surrounded by technology, more specifically though, social media and the internet. When I start obsessing over numbers, feeling down about 0 comments on a post I worked hard on, or anything else to that nature, I know it's time for me to step back from technology. If it isn't raining or miserable, I grab my notepad and sit outside with a cuppa, planning new ideas and schedules to come. I'm still working, but I'm not stuck obsessing and stressing. Sometimes a good walk or some fresh air is all you really need to clear your head and get yourself feeling back to normal. I always feel better when I've had some fresh air, especially if I've been cooped up all day!

Do you agree with any of these? What tips and tricks have you learned over the years about life that help to improve your happiness levels?

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